My partner and I have been together for 2 years. We have a great fun connection most of the time.
History: I live in my own and pay my own bills. I’m a straight A student so I’m always studying but manage my time well. Also work a full time job.
He lives with his mom and step father… he pays for his car insurance and phone bill. He often is in between jobs and sometimes it’s his fault for being inconsistent. His drive and ambition is zero to none. I’ve tried help motivated him but at a certain point that’s not my job.
Last week I went grocery shopping with him for dinner, he said he was going to send me $15 but never did. Then, he eats all of the chips we bought. This week, he comes over and I fell asleep to see him eating all my snacks the next morning.
I’ve told him before to be mindful of the amount of stuff he uses because I don’t have extra cash to just over buy household things and food.
He says I’m nagging sometimes but I don’t see it as nagging when it actually stresses me out. I’ve been patient about his job situation but his effort in obtaining employment is there for 3 days then off for 3 days. He says things like “I applied to 14 jobs this week” I’m like 14? That’s it?
Im becoming burnt out from overly extending myself to not have the same energy reciprocated, I’m trying to get him to understand where I’m coming from, how can I explain this to him calmly and respectfully?
TL;DR: partner is inconsiderate, by coming over my apartment and eating most of my food n snacks and hardly offers to replace anything.