My partner and I have a fantastic relationship. We are honest with each other, kind, loving, affectionate, and gentle. With us both being in therapy and on our own healing journeys, our communication is calm and considerate while still being authentic to ourselves and our feelings which makes our romance and intimacy so much better.
I recently moved into his house and we are planning on getting married soon and then hopefully starting a family. Our sex life is the best I’ve ever had; we still have sex daily, sometimes even morning or night if we have time. It’s always so soft and sweet and slow. I’ve never experienced such a high sex drive and desire. I equate this to our high emotional availability, vulnerability, and his willingness to place my pleasure first.
I really enjoy the loving, sweet, sensual sex I have in my relationship. That said, part of me wants to explore a more kinky side. I love when my partner cups my face, gently grabs my throat, calls me his babygirl, or even playfully slaps me. I’m learning that I’m very submissive, and I really want to continue exploring that side of myself since I feel safe with him. I’d love to try handcuffs, a blindfold, or even calling him daddy, but I don’t know how to communicate this since sometimes I’m still uncomfortable with the topic or just feel silly. How should I approach this?
TLDR; how do I tell my sweet, loving, gentle partner that I want to be more dirty?