The title kind of explains it but i basically did life backwards and I’m starting to feel it.
For some backstory, I was born an only child in a small country town so I wasn’t around a lot of kids to make friends. My family moved to a big city halfway across the country when I was 14 so any friends I had started to make went away. Im terrible at reaching out to people, I usually go months at a time without talking to any.
My early 20s were spent partying with a small group of friends and surfing d8ting websites and the bar scene for college level women. Eventually I found one at 26 who I decided I would marry and together we have 4 kids, 1 from her (10), 1 from me (7), 1 together (8 months) and then she adopted her deceased sisters son (9).
The problem is that I’ve taken up a new lifestyle. I haven’t drank in six months and I haven’t gone out for about 3 years. I’ve devoted my time to my career and my new family.
My interests don’t really match my age. I’ve never been into sports teams or cars or building stuff. I work as an electrician with a small group of guys who are into all of that stuff. It’s hard to find something to relate to them with. Also the fact I haven’t been around many people in my life, no siblings or childhood friends, and recently staying sober, cuts me off from most social groups people would normally have.
It’s hard to find common ground with people when I’ve spent my time taking care of kids. I’ve thought about finding a hobby to make friends but I don’t even know where to start.
Any advice ?