Seems like a stupid question but here’s what I mean..
It’s common knowledge women have wildly differing preferences and boundaries in bed. I’ve been with a lady who’s clit was too sensitive to touch directly and I’ve been with one who basically needed to have it rubbed with sandpaper to feel much pleasure for instance.
People love to crap on inexperienced guys as though they need to be taught the ways of the sexy time as if they’re Jedi’s in training, but how does experience really manifest in a way that’s so beneficial?
My understanding is that if a guy goes into it thinking he’s a sex god who can turn any woman into a human fire hydrant he’s probably going to lack the tact, the humility, the patience, and the understanding needed to actually give a woman what she wants. It’s nothing like learning to ride a bike.
I know a dude who claims to have a triple digit body count but brags about how he skips foreplay and goes straight to doggy style and the positions he wants. In what world do women want this? Maybe if it’s their partner and they’re insanely horny, but most the time this would just be painful and unsatisfying.
An experienced guy might have a better understanding of what he likes, he might have improved his general technique for say fingering, he might be able to last a bit longer if he’s conditioned himself to negate orgasming during sex, and he might not be as hesitant to get a bit dirtier or dominant if the lady asks for it, but I fail to see how there’s a night and day difference, since it’s such a complex interaction.
Thoughts?