\*\*TL:DR My girlfriend expected me to go to her to talk about an argument and i didn’t do it, yesterday she asked me to come, i said yes, she got angry and she said to me to not come anymore, now we are having another argument about the fact that I still had to go even though yesterday she got angry and told me not to go, so I would surprise her and we would talk\*\*
After a whole day of talking civilly to my girlfriend about our argument happened yesterday, she’s insulting me now, and she’s so mad cause she expected me to surprise her by coming to the town where she’s studying to talk, when she gets back to her parents’ house tomorrow and we have days to spend together to keep talking and clarifying. Today I could not even think to surprise her because I also have a life and things to do during my days, it is not that everyone is free to take a train one day and return the next day home without problems. Am I the asshole who didn’t surprise her? I do not think that she is right to get angry to the point of insulting me because I did not do something that she expected, I think she can feel bad and communicate it to me but not get to this point as if she wants to overwhelm me, but maybe I’m wrong because she says I don’t look at things from her pov.
sorry for my english but it isn’t my first language
To get more information about the context and the situation here is yesterday’s post:
My girlfriend and I had planned that this weekend she would go home to her parents, that is, to the same town that I live in, and then on Sunday we would go back together to the house where she lives to attend university and I would stay until Wednesday with her. Tonight when I leave the gym I read her message asking me if I wanted to go see her tomorrow and then come back with her the day after tomorrow, I say yes and she gets angry and says “if you want to come here why do I have to ask you?” and tells me not to go to her tomorrow, now she’s angry and doesn’t talk to me. Why do you think if our programs were other than the fact that I didn’t propose to do something outside of our programs made her feel so bad? and then I would like to know why a person should get angry if the partner agrees to go to her? I guess at this point if I’d answered no she’d still be upset, but in that case I would have figured out the reason to be disappointed, in this case I can’t find it