My roomate and I are 26F and 28F respectively. We both just went through a breakup around the same time. She was the other woman in her situation and I was cheated on in mine which is causing us some tension.
I recently lost 20lbs of weight, and started going to therapy for the last 4 months, completely cut out alcohol and trying to get myself together after being left for another woman. Right now, I’ll admit, I am still sensitive about my appearance because my ex used to compare me to the new woman.
But as I have improved things in my life it feels like she’s becoming more critical of me and calling me boring. She also has started insinuating that men like her more because I’m too predictable just pretty, but not sexy or hot, like her.
Everytime I mention I might be interested in a guy, she goes after them and hooks up with them. Then comes back to brag about it to me. Recently, I moved on to a new guy but stopped hanging out with him he accidentally let it slip that he was married. But then I found out shes now having an affair with him and sends me screen shots of her conversations. She also often tells me stories about how guys are obsessed with her, and ngl it’s kinda starting to hurt.
Im really starting to worry that men don’t like me, and I am boring and not attractive even after getting in shape. I know I probably shouldn’t be dating but how do I know if l’m still desirable?
td;lr “Friend”/roomate is really competitive and critical of me, telling me I’m boring and guys like her more. She goes after any guy I mention that I find attractive and brags about taking their attention from me. Im not actively seeking out a partner right now but Im starting to feel like I should try harder. Sometimes she succeeds, which makes me think I’m less attractive. Needing advice on how deal with this situation while living together?