I’m not a seasoned dater and would be grateful for advice.
I (39M) was married for ten years then divorced. Married young, first girlfriend.
Thereafter, I dated lady A and lady B. Lady A and I called it off after four months mutually.
Lady B: After she seemed interested, I fell hard for her. But when she decided to breakup after about five months it broke me hard. Did therapy and spent a lot of time learning and relearning stuff.
Just met Lady C (36F) who is beautiful and intelligent. She’s literally a cross between Taylor Swift and Kirsten Dunst. We had a wonderful day together – lunch and a walk at Central Park.
But, I felt no chemistry or to be precise didn’t feel any strong attraction or excitement. By comparison, to lady B, I felt a strong urge to want to be close to her.
Like I was always excited to see Lady B. But Lady C, I felt comfortable but no real excitement.
I might be mixing ideas up but:
1. How important is chemistry?
2. Can these things grow?
3. Is chemistry possibly not a good thing – might be limerence or the start of trauma bonding, i.e. you fall for something other than the real person.
Grateful for any thoughts!!