So in a couple of months my uncle (dads side) is having a big birthday weekend from Friday-Sunday. He has said young children it wouldn’t be ideal if they came as it will be a lot of adults and drinking etc and just not fun for them.
I have two girls, 3.5 years and 1.5 years. My fiance and I never really go out and are always with our girls which we love but I can’t lie it would be nice to have a weekend to ourselves.
My fiance and I both agreed for my best friend to have our girls. She’s worked in childcare before and babysat for us a few times and was more than happy to have them for the weekend (its a one off and likely won’t happen again for a very long time) not to mention my girls love her a lot. She’s been my best friend for 15 years.
However, I got a call from my dad today who told me my mum has made it very clear she’s not comfortable with my friend looking after my children. My dad told me my mum will be very upset and will probably not go to the weekend. She doesn’t understand how I could leave my children with her (she has never done anything wrong or shown any signs of incompetence). My dad just wants an easy life so is trying to play both sides. My mum is apparently very upset by this and my dad said its going to cause issues. He was going to reach out to my uncle to see if the girls can come. I got quite annoyed with him as it’s not their place to make these decisions about my children.
I think my mum is probably looking for an excuse not to go but is using my children as the way out. She has never really liked my dads side of the family so I wouldn’t be surprised. I’m trying to put my foot down and stick to my decision but is it just me or is she acting crazy?
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TL;DR- birthday weekend and my mum won’t go if my best friend is looking after MY children