So I’m just under two years into a divorce after an 11 year marriage. In that time of commitment the dating machine has turned into a seriously aggravating thing. Dating apps are terrible and make it feel like I’m putting myself up for some kind of auction but getting no bids. The pub/bar scene has never been easy for me, but going on my own just makes me feel kinda creepy (I had to move to another state to afford rent, I lived in New York, so I don’t have a friend group out here yet). I’ve tried going to meetup events but it just kinda feels wrong to go to an art/comics/whatever meetup hoping to find a date… I don’t lack for self confidence, I’m pretty happy with who I am as a person. I’m a big guy and I own it, and I think I’m pretty good with people as far as I can judge that accurately. Still, I’m finding it incredibly difficult to find a connection. I’ve met a few girls I liked on Discord but they started making things scary really fast.
For reverence I’m 40, slowly working on getting more fit and have always been fairly active, I’m a mostly successful artist/designer, I’m 6’2″ and have been told I “rolled high in my charisma stat.” To be fair those were fellow D&D geeks that said that so maybe their perspective was a little off! I won’t deny that I’m not everyone’s idea of a perfect guy, but I’m not fussed about that. Nobody is! I’m at a loss here and was wondering if anyone has any advice.