Should I stay or should I go

Me ‘21F’ and my boyfriend ‘23M’ have been in a relationship for two years now. We are our both serious committed relationship. I’m his first love and he is mine. We do everything together! The first year and a half of our relationship I was very adamant about communicating because that’s how I like to create intimacy. He’s on the spectrum so he has a very hard time communicating on how he’s feeling and that created a lot of frustration with myself. At the end of last year something just flipped in me, I feel distant and don’t feel like warm cozy love that I used to. I feel kind of drained but I’m not sure why I’m feeling this way- I don’t want to feel like this anymore. He finally woke up and understood that our relationship is at stake and he started to communicate his emotions a lot better. Now he’s finally opening up but I’m at a point where I’ve fought so much in the beginning that I’m literally empty. It’s not like I want to feel this way but I do. I’m a giver and I gave so much to him at the beginning of our relationship but now I seem as it flipped!

I recognized that I need to spend time with myself and love myself so I’ve been doing that a little bit as well.

When I’m with him I feel like I’m not the right person for him because he’s so energetic while I have no energy and go nonverbal. He reassures me as says that HE chose ME and he wouldn’t change it for the world.

I’ve felt like this for 4 months now and it’s consuming me. I want this to work because I LOVE HIM! He supports me so much and I support him. We have the same morals and values. I also think he has ADHD which is a bit tiring since I’m an introvert. I also feel like my relationship is at a standstill. Is this what stability feels like? Or am I bored? I’m just so confused and frustrated because I want this to work.

TLDR; my boyfriend started to care more about emotions too late into the relationship and I don’t know how to go about this.