How to deal with two faced friends?

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1. You ignore them, or you focus on the benefits of talking to them. Why? Because these people have low self esteem from past trauma/abuse. They aren’t normal.

2. I don’t. If they want to be two-faced they don’t belong in my inner circle, it’s better for my mental health that way

3. How do you act in front of new people? When it’s not just you and him but there are more people do you keep behaving normally as if you were alone but target everyone or just stay quiet and listen to what they’re talking about’with the occasional comment?

4. I was in the exact same situation as you and 100% regret not cutting such people out of my life sooner.

   In my experience this will not end well. You are friends of convenience even though they are fake to you. They also probably backbite about you when you are not there.

   In my experience, I managed to stay friends with them for long as long as my life was at a point where I was able to deal with the difficulties in it. But there came a point when, things became really difficult. That is when these friendships became more apparent in how harmful they were.

   Cutting them off will hurt so much. Because you will experience zero social life. But look at it this way, all the time, energy and effort you are wasting on these people is stopping you from putting in the effort to be in situations where you might come across better people for you. So it has a lot of damage overall that you go through by staying in this situation.

   Leave these people soon because you will leave them eventually and you don’t want to leave them when you are at a very low point like I did. You will find it difficult but it is I think necessary

5. Here’s some excellent advice:

   The friends that you deal with are ones who are not horrible.

   The friends that you don’t deal with are ones who *are* horrible. In other words, cut them out. Don’t deal with people, cut them out.