How did you cope with the fact that your 1st time wasn’t with someone special but it was a mistake ?

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1. I lost mine due to peer pressure as ex clearly stated we couldn’t be together unless we did sex right there and then (this is only after 2 days of being together)

   I went along with it to keep the ex happy, On a positive note I’m guessing it could have been worse most around me lost theirs at a party or were underage

   At the time I thought that person was someone special but yeah it’s clearly a mistake I have learnt

2. I realize that virginity is an invention by the patriarchy – not a real thing. That men do not hold the power to change a woman with their all mighty magic penises when they have sex with us. That they don’t get to take a thing.
   And so I equate my first time having sex, to my first time kissing, holding hands, first relationship, etc.
   A new thing I tried.
   Didn’t necessarily go amazing. Some mistakes were made. I learned a lot.. It’s much much better now.
   The end.

3. Maybe it’s my age but losing your virginity is so unimportant in the vast scheme of things that I never think about my first.

4. I was a late bloomer, I was just relieved to have it out of the way. I did feel a little used after the fact, but overall I was confused why people make it out to be such a big deal.

5. I don’t I waited for my first time to be with someone special

6. You are at all times one figurative knife in the back away from all of those memories being nothing but an internal monument to your own foolishness of ever holding someone else in such a high regard. So it really doesn’t matter anyway.

7. My first tkme was so underwhelming, that I realised in that moment that sex & virginity are really overrated.