Hoping to get responses especially from people with periods. Also hoping it’s okay to post here, I’m not sure if non-romantic relationships are allowed.
We’ve been roommates since the start of this school year, so about eight months now. We have a very open friendship, and at some point she let me know she uses period underwear and has to wash them in the bathroom sink whenever they’re “full”. I’m fine with this and it doesn’t come up often, it’s just that sometimes she’s in the middle of something so she warns me they’re soaking until she has a minute to wash them.
So for example, she’ll come home and have to quickly turn in an assignment. She’ll go to the bathroom, put the full underwear in the filled sink, let me know they’re there, and then properly wash them ten minutes later when she’s done. If she isn’t in a rush she’ll just wash them.
But the issue is that a couple days ago, when she told me they were soaking, I realized she’d told me that two weeks ago too. And the more I thought about it the more obvious it was that it doesn’t seem like she has an actual cycle? Like, it seems like she’s washing them very constantly, which makes me think she’s bleeding constantly too. Which obviously isn’t normal and makes me a little worried.
I’ve been paying more attention recently and it does seem like she’s washing a pair literally every day(not that she’s telling me every day, but I can tell when she’s washing them because the sink runs for like five minutes straight). When they’re soaking in the sink after she gives me a heads up they do seem to be turning the water red, so I don’t think she’s not using them for blood. I don’t want to be creepy and figure out more without just asking her, but I’m not sure this is my business either. I’m just very worried.
So should I confront her and ask if everything’s okay? I don’t want to be a creep, but it’s so obvious at this point that I feel sort of weird not bringing it up.
TLDR; I’m pretty sure my roomate has been having to wash her period underwear every day for at least the past month, maybe longer and I just didn’t notice. I’m worried about her and wondering if I should confront her or just trust it and leave it be.