(50F) gone through early menopause and unintentionally lost weight (5’7, 150-130 lbs).
My stats might sound great, but the weight unfortunately disappeared from my hips, thighs and mostly breasts (B+ cup -> AAcup).
Weight gain isn’t happening unless it goes to belly. I’ve tried fat transfer to breasts with a highly experienced surgeon to salvage my chest, but it didn’t work and he basically told me there is nothing he can do for me anymore. Now I also have additional loose skin from liposuction.
Needless to say my husband isn’t nearly as interested in me and it’s hitting me hard after 23 years of marriage and two great boys.
I exercise and eat well and try to keep the rest of me presentable but it’s really thrown a wrench into our intimate life.
He won’t say it but he is spending more time online looking at women who look like me 25 years ago.
I can’t blame him but I feel so lost how to move on in this emotionally trying situation.
I’m not ready to give up intimacy yet but see the disappointment in his eyes when I undress.
I’ve offered an open marriage but he just gets angry when I bring it up.
I also contemplated getting breast implants but he doesn’t like the idea of fake breasts nor the added expense.
I feel like I’m in a catch22 and it’s taken a huge toll on my mental well being.
What can I/we do to not end up divorced?
Edit: I am on HRT but unfortunately it hasn’t helped with breast restoration either.