It’s been deteriorating for 7 years. I honestly want it to work but it’s getting harder to try. I truly feel she wants nothing to do with me. No intimacy unless I initiate and I know she is just going through the motions. No effort at all. We go months in-between and when I bring it up she just gets mad and starts an argument because I want to feel like someone loves me. We only really talk business…kids and jobs. No casual fun discussions. She lives her life through sports with our kid. She lives and breathes it and gets defensive when I make comments about being jealous of the time and mental energy she gives it. Wishing she would just give our marriage a fraction of that. We are nothing a like anymore. Two totally different people. I think she likes the idea of being married coming from a conservative family and expects me to just be miserable because that’s marriage. My love language is physical touch and it’s important to me. She says it’s not her job to make me happy. I need to find other happiness. She’s made it clear she won’t try. No counseling yet but she feels that is stupid as well and doesn’t want to spend money on it.