I’ve noticed repeatedly throughout my life that people will judge me without even getting to know me. i know it’s normal for people to do this, but i find it happens very often with me that people will decide within the first few seconds of meeting me if i am worthy enough for them. i dress nice, i keep myself clean and groomed and i offer a smile whenever i can. the problem is that people will look at me and decide that i am beneath them and that i’m not worth their time.
i don’t want to continue to be isolated; i don’t want to be someone’s last pick or refuge. i don’t mean to sound arrogant but i know and feel that i am a kind, funny, and good person to be around. i run errands for my friends, i wait for them in lines and say kind things and make all the right jokes at the right times. when i meet new people i ask them questions, i take genuine interest in others’ lives. people just don’t want to talk to me or get to know me. they don’t want to be my friend or to treat me any better than trash. i deserve better than this, i just don’t know how to go about it.
how do i fix this? how do i become more charismatic, likeable, and sociable to others? i know i have a lot to offer, i just need people to slow down and give me a chance first.