Been together 10 years. Married for 4, our only daughter is almost 3. We get along mostly fine, except for intimacy. I want it and she doesnt, like at all. And obviously I [34 M] would like more sex, but no I’m talking about sitting next to each other on the couch, holding hands, hugs and kisses (from a willing partner).
She [35 F] was always complaining about work and all kinds of things that stressed her out. I always felt she was missing the wonderful life we had, and maybe I spent too much time trying to ‘fix’ her semi-permanent bad moods.
Recently she convinced me to move to another state, away from my family, and the home I bought for us, so she could get better career opportunity and would “give us the best chance for happiness.”
Not even 1 month into out 15 month lease she tells me she isn’t attracted to me and doesn’t know why. Essentially she doesn’t want the life I was building for us, and has just been phoning it in for years, hoping that attraction would magically manifest.
She’s not interested in talking about how we got to this point, and now I’m more or less stuck living with a closed off partner who doesn’t trust me.
From the sounds of it she expects us to just live together and I I’ve essentially been friend zoned by my longtime partner.
Is there any way to spin a silver lining out of this shit sammich I have been dealt?
Tl;dr: wife doesnt want me to touch her, eventually wants divorce, we just signed a lease.