My husband and I have been married for a year. We have dated for almost 6 years. We have a 2 year old daughter.
He is Korean (m) 39 years old. I am a (f) 28 years old Mexican American. I bring race into this because we come from two completely backgrounds. In Korean culture he believes because he is older he should be respected and I should “obey” him.
I believe he is a narcissist and has extreme anger issues. Our most recent fight was yesterday. He got upset at me because I turned on the TV for our daughter at 5:45pm instead of 6:00pm. It turned out to be a huge deal. This time he also blamed me for his recent diagnosis of diabetes.
Everything I do or say makes him upset. I constantly apologize because I started to feel like I am really “stupid” because he is highly educated while I just have an associate degree. He makes me feel “stupid” and calls me stupid and ungrateful. He pays for everything even though I work for him and help him in many ways.
He constantly disrespects me when he is upset. He calls me “stupid”, “bitch” , “dumb ass”, “piece of shit”. When we argue he kicks me out and threatens me for divorce.
When he gets upset he leaves for days at a time then he comes home and acts like it’s all my fault. I apologize and he forgives me. Then it happens again the next week.
I know it’s not right. I don’t want my daughter to see what’s going on. I grew up with a physically abusive dad towards my mom. I don’t know if I stay with my husband because at least he is not hitting me.
I know j should divorce him and leave with my daughter. I just don’t have a job (since I work for him). I feel not confident and scared. I’ve become very very co dependent on him.
I just need someone to tell me this isn’t okay and I need to leave.