My boyfriend is a big hugger. We have been dating for a year and a half, and due to a financial situation we moved in together about three months ago. I have sensory issues, mostly to do with touch, and I have a limit on how much contact I can handle before I get too anxious.
I can prepare myself when I see it coming, like reaching out for a handshake or even giving a hug if approached appropriately. However, he likes to jump on my back and hug me from behind which stresses me out beyond belief, and he gets offended each time I tell him to stop.
How can I stress this point enough that get him to stop? I love him to death, but I can’t keep getting this stressed on the weekly.