My FIL has been married for 43 years to my MIL.
My husband and I all use the same Sam’s club membership app together as my in laws.
Long story short.
For years… YEARS my FIL has been ordering chocolates, laundry detergent, perfume and high heels to some other woman’s address who is also married.
FIL goes on ” work meetings” every month for the whole weekend.
My FIL is 64 and is Asian so he looks way younger than a typical 64 yro male.
I told my husband it’s not right his father is doing that to his mother. My husband said we should tell his mother after we are done visiting their house for the month so we are not apart of the argument.
What should we do?
Mind our business and not say a word or say something after we leave?
Update:
We won’t say anything. Husband said that his mom would only be very hurt and would stay with my FIL because she loves him too much.
My husband said his mother is the type to forgive my FIL and think she did something wrong.
It would only make FIL cover up his tracks better.
Husband said it’s a lose lose situation because his mother would be heartbroken, wouldn’t leave and would forgive him anyways.
Thank you guys for your comments! I feel so awful just not telling her but I think it’s best she never knows.
It tears me up inside but with Viet culture it’s very different from American culture.
Sigh… It SUCKS but my husband is right…
My MIL would just cry every night and become so depressed and would just stay with him.
Maybe one day after she retires I can say something but idk… I just would hate for her to die thinking someone really loved her.