Wife and I both in our thirties and work full time. We both have various social media accounts. My wife is an attractive lady, I won’t deny it, she’s definitely built in an attractive way and has been gifted with an amazing body. In recent months she’s taken to posting more and more “sexy” stuff on instagram. Like nothing n-de, nothing p-rnographic, obviously within instagram rules and her account has never been deleting. But it is stuff that I always wondered, “why is she posting that?”
She posts A LOT of bikini pics, like a lot. Sometimes she posts lingerie/underwear pics, mostly bikini pics. Always special focus on her “upper body” if you get what I mean. She literally had of thousands of followers, the overwhelming, overwhelming, overwhelming majority are men. Guys she doesn’t even know. Just random guys that shower her with attention and she’s never met.
I figured, whatever, no harm. Other guys are jealous I have a hot wife, they get to look, but not touch, right? No big deal. She likes the attention. I’m not 100% comfortable with it, but whatever.
Every time she posts a bikini pic, she gets a whole bunch of reactions and comments from guys she’s never met, like sometimes sexual comments, sometimes just polite comments admiring her.
I’ve always led it slide, whenever I asked her about it, she says “this is who I am”, I think she definitely loves the attention.
We have full access to each others phones and messages but we rarely take advantage of this because we trust each other.
It came to ahead when one day I saw her messaging some random guy on instagram at night, I asked who he was, she said just some rando who DM’d her, and she said he was really funny. She said he was trying to flirt. I looked at the texts, she was 100% flirting back.
I won’t go into full detail but there was a lot of explicit sexual talk, he was clearly trying to sext her, she wasn’t shutting him down and was inviting him. Basically he was saying what he would “do”, and she was asking like “what would you do?” and he was saying graphic sexual descriptions and she was replying and kind of encouraging it more and not shutting it down.
I lost it, to me this was pretty much sexting another guy. I was like why are you talking with another guy this way.
I took the phone and deleted her instagram. She went ballistic and we had a huge huge HUGE fight but have mostly calmed down since.
tldr: wife posts thirst traps and flirts with guys on isntagram. I deleted her instagram in response.