I (28m) have been in the dating market for quite some time. I’ve had my fair share of relationships, but the lack of respect from partners has made it difficult for anything to stick. I know what I have to offer, but after being let down so many times it’s difficult to think that it’s enough. At this point I just want someone to give all my love and affection to. I’ve spent so much time loving myself and building me and my hobbies.
I was recently talking to a girl (30f) and things seemed to kick off better than usual. Conversation was supplied by both parties and she asked more questions than the usual person. She’d been to my house on more than one occasion and we were getting to a point where things were getting personal. She would tell me all about her life and day by day struggles as would I. We would tell each other how much we missed each other and would tell each other how excited we were to see each other again. I brought up the idea of dating each other exclusively and she seemed on board, excited really. Out of nowhere the messages stopped rolling in, the calls were ignored, and my messages were left on read. We had plans this weekend to spend all day together, this was suppose to be an exciting time. Haven’t heard from her in a week.
I don’t know much more effort I can put in, I spent my early adulthood building myself. I’m successful by any persons regard. It seems so easy for people to resort to abandoning. I’m not saying being let down would be easy but at least there could be a mature conversation about what happened. Maybe at the very least I could learn and grow relationship wise to be better for the next person. It’s difficult to do when every person I’ve ever dated has resorted to ghosting.
I’m sure dating “back in the day” had its challenges, but from I’ve seen it’s like almost every old couple I know had the ability to work through issues and figured their shit out. I guess I have to just wait till my time comes, I hope my heart isn’t to callused when it does.