Here’s our problem from both my perspective and hers I hope any of you can help us understand the situation more and as me (the guy) I love her I just want you all to give us advice that will help us continue (I used a translator cause my English is not that good)
Her: I’m here unable to decide whether to continue or not, but I’m overwhelmed by the feeling that it won’t continue, and I don’t want to do this because it might be unfair to the person with me. To summarize, this is the first time I’ve truly experienced love, and almost since we’ve known each other, we’ve been arguing a lot. However, we sit down and say it’s not a problem and our relationship has become stronger. Before knowing him, I had a problem with myself and didn’t know how to solve it. When I loved him, I tried not to hurt him with my problem, but because of it, I once acted in a way that caused him to have a mental breakdown. I was shocked, not knowing what to do or really understanding what was happening. He started cursing me, and we kept cursing each other until he collapsed, and I tried to calm him down. At that time, nothing mattered to me except for him to calm down. But since then, we don’t know whether to continue or not, or I don’t know if I can really continue or not. Our words are contradictory, and I don’t know what to do anymore. I feel that after what happened, we shouldn’t continue at all, but I wanted to say maybe someone could help with something.
Him: Before I knew her, my life was empty, not that I wasn’t doing anything, but empty in terms of being emotionally numb. For the first time with her, I felt like I found the person I’ve always dreamed of. Indeed, our first period together was beautiful because, as everyone knows, beginnings are like that. But even before we confessed to each other, we knew that love, marriage, and commitment are not easy. I told her that we are not ready, I’m still preparing financially, and she and her family agreed with this. Everything between the families and formalities, God made easy for us. But honestly, both of us are not in a good mental state and filled with traumas, which we discovered over time with each argument. But I keep saying that I don’t like the idea that this relationship or what’s between us ends on the notion that we were just that. Every day I pray to God and ask that we continue well and that He opens the closed doors for us. I try to improve myself for her and tell her to talk, but she really can’t talk that much, and it’s not a flaw, but it’s really because of our current circumstances and that we’re not together all the time yet. Many things fall apart because, of course, social media doesn’t convey feelings, looks, messages, or anything correctly. Most of the time, we fall because of this, but we continue until this morning when everything between us was ending because both of us made mistakes from our sides. For the first time, I had a nervous breakdown in front of her, and after we calmed down, I realized that the issue is not just a problem that ends the conversation because if I really didn’t want her from the beginning, I would have left. But both of us know that we can’t easily separate.
Request from both: All that is required from those who will see the post and read it to the end is to really tell us why this is happening and what the solution is.