So recently I (22M) have been going on a few dates thru Hinge and am finding the same problem keeps arising. I’ll match & text with someone through the apps, set up a date, and then meet in person only to realize that they look differently than their profile led me to believe. Now I know it happens sometimes, whatever, I still try and have an enjoyable time because for one they could still be fun people (which they mostly are), and also I don’t want to be an asshole and be needlessly cruel by seeming detached or rushing out or something.
My problem is that after finishing these dates (that last like an hour) where I already know I’m not going to pursue a second one, I don’t really know how to then politely let them know that I’m not interested. I hate it because I feel like the positivity I’m going in with is going to be misread as interest, but I really don’t want to be an asshole and make someone feel bad on the spot or afterwards even. I’ve been on the opposite side of it as well where someone behaves very fun and cordial but then ghosts me immediately afterwards and I just kind of want to hear y’all’s (the two apostrophes or one?) thoughts on how one should handle being in that position. Where you maybe entertained someone who was more into you than them but don’t want to hurt them after that investment. Is there any way not to?
Thank you all!
Edit: added age and gender