While we’re lying in bed together or sitting next to each other at home, my boyfriend will often suddenly begin to position himself in a way that allows his dick to touch me. Sometimes he also lightly grinds on me/rubs up against me, or he grabs one of my limbs and places it on his crotch.
This isn’t always a problem to me. I guess this is something guys simply do, and sometimes it is also him initiating sex. The problem is that he’s also done it when I’ve stated that I’m feeling bad/down and what we’re talking about isn’t sexual at all. It doesn’t always feel good. It makes me feel like he doesn’t care about my feelings and I’m his tool for masturbation. I admit we’ve never fully discussed it and we need to but I’d like to get some other opinions as well. Am I overthinking this? Is this normal? Any tips on how to best approach this?
He also starts feeling me up during similar situations, or in the past he would quickly touch my privates when saying hi or bye to me. The latter I did fully address once, explained that it made me feel uncomfortable, and he hasn’t done it again.
We’ve been together for about 5 years.