How to deal with a large friendship group where a small percentage have wronged you?
So for some background context, I (24, M) have had a male friendship group for around 10 years, since our high school days. We live in an “expat city” where most young people know each other.
A few months ago, one person in the group stopped speaking to me and couldn’t tell me why. 3 others followed suit and I confronted them around a month ago, where we hashed things out but I maintained that I wouldn’t stand for that and although we were cool, I expect more from close friends and I won’t be able to forget things just like that. (If you are a friend of 10 years you can talk to me about a small issue which you are angry about).
Nevertheless, we are all part of a bigger group along with other friends I have always been close with. These guys hang out with us also and I don’t mind if we’re all doing a sporting activity but if it’s a more intimate setting such as playing cards at someones house, I have an issue with it.
How do I deal with this situation, without holding a grudge but also maintaining the fact that I really can’t be bothered to have a deep and meaningful conversation with people who wronged me. I don’t want to come off as petty or salty and I feel I am overthinking it but at the same time, I just don’t have the energy to sit and constantly converse with people who have wronged me.
Thank you for taking the time to read this!