My girlfriend and I, both 19, used to engage in sex very frequently. However as time went on I realized that her interest lessened. I talked to her about it and she said that sex hurts at some point during it more often than it doesn’t. Since we’ve started dating, she’s had and been treated for BV twice. She’s also been on a progestin birth control for several years. It sucks because she’s rarely been able to enjoy sex in its entirety since her first BV diagnosis. She’ll very often wind up bleeding. No matter how much lube we put on it still dries up fast. It also doesn’t help that I’m a bit large for her. She also said that she’s begun to associate sex with pain, thereby killing her mood. It’s difficult for us to exceed five minutes because that’s about the threshold she has before pain will begin. To make matters worse, even when she’s not in pain she’ll often feel a weird sensation from it. She also only likes incourse, no other types of sex. I’ve been very understanding of it but I want to know how I can help her in improving the situation, what to recommend/try, and what should I do if she’s not open to these suggestions? I’m looking for suggestions on how to return our sex life to normal.
Thanks.