Hello all,
New to Reddit, but wanted some advice.
My wife had our fourth child in February. We had a daughter, which was a suprise as our other three are boys and my family is all boys for generations. We love having a daughter.
My wife has been telling me she feels alone. Not blaming me, per se, but makes it clear that I am part of that issue. I am wondering of anyone has any advice. I have suggested she calls friends to spend some time together. We have also recently gotten to know several other parent groups thanks to the boys being in school. My wife hit it off with a few of the moms.
I don’t suggest this to make it someone else’s problem, but I want her to feel seen and present with people who can understand post partum much better than I can. I do my best on my end. I make sure she gets extra sleep and get the boys ready for school before heading to work, waking her up around 7:30. I am the sole provider and I don’t get home until 7/8pm but I do chores and chat with her when I get home. We usually talk until around 10pm, then I go deflate for a half hour or so and go to bed.
Weekends are all family time or chores. I don’t watch the game with the boys or run off to golf for the afternoon. It is all family time.
I just don’t know what else to do on my end of things. I am as present as I can be while still being a seperate person. At least, that is how it feels.