I (25F) have been seeing a guy(29M) for the past 3 months. We get along very well apart from what I wrote in the title, it seems like he’s interested in sex only up until the moment he ejaculates, which has been usually at the peak of my arousal. Then the shorts come on again and we have lovely non-sexual intimacy which I value but I do feel as if business has been left unfinished every time. I wake up howling at the moon for answers (posting on Reddit).
I’ve not once orgasmed in the 10 odd occasions we had sex. It doesnt take me very long or very much to cum and knowing this frustrates me even a bit more. He hardly plays with it or if he does its a few seconds before penetration, however he seems to know EXACTLY where everything is and how it works- if you get what I mean, so it’s not due to lack of experience. He knows I havent orgasmed yet and I’m concerned at his lack of interest for it, every former partner of mine seemed to get off me getting off and he doesnt seem to find pleasure in that. He does however care and is very attentive to my pleasures outside sex so I’m having trouble comprehending this.
I gave it time and enough occassions, and decided to bring this up to him next time we meet. Not sure how or what to say. I’d be down to work through it because we match so well outside the bedroom and am interested to see if it would lead further.
Thank you for tuning into my rant babble. Any similar experiences and advice would be appreciated.