So context to this is I’m a recent university dropout now working full time and also running a business that my successful best friend/business partner showed me. I’m still living with my mother and she isn’t aware that I’ve dropped out but I’ve had arguments with her before about it and she would just simply say things like “you have no choice” or “after everything I’ve done for you” exc. furthermore she always complains that I never talk to her about things but will speak with other people.
Now growing up from what I remember we come from a low income background and she worked hard to make sure that I had everything then ended up having 2 siblings later on when I was a teenager and did the same for them both. The only issues I had though was that I think due to stress she would always be very critical of me and would shout or insult me at any little thing like I would try and help her clean up and she would tell me to stop and that I’m getting in her way then when I don’t help she shouts and call me useless or an idiot.
Forgetting to say also that I would get hit a lot by hand or an object like a belt or wooden coat hangers whenever she was frustrated and I did something that was wasn’t right like her asking me to find something she put down and if I couldn’t find it I would get lashed. Fast forward Now becoming a teenager the hitting stopped because I guess I got used to it and it stopped bothering me but the shouting and insults would get worse and then she would start telling me that I’m the reason she doesn’t want to live anymore and that she hates me. First time i recall it happening was because around the last time she lashed me with an extended iPhone wire but folded in half, I told one of my friends in high school not really thinking anything of it and it turned out he told his mom and she called cps which later got in contact with my mother and she went absolutely ballistic at me.
Then after finishing school I wanted to work full time whilst working on different business opportunities then get into a trade after a year or 2 if things weren’t working out as planned and when I told my mother she told me I had no choice but to go university and when I also wanted to move out because even though I love my mom I hate the environment of being around her and felt like I couldn’t stay there anymore and she talked me into not leaving I can’t honestly remember how though.
So now I ended up going to university and stayed for 2 years I didn’t like it and didn’t feel like I was living the life I wanted on top of that seeing my friend go from the same position I was at to making a lot of money through business so I ended up dropping out and instantly got a job in sales lying to my mom to save the chaos for abit longer and saved up enough to get started and now and starting to make an ok amount of money through the same means but I know that because in my moms eyes I probably went against her things are probably going to blow out of proportion but I’m also nervous being without her if she was to stop talking to me over this.