So I’m on the extreme side of quiet. This is due to my crippling self esteem and trouble of speaking up.
I’ve noticed that during the darkest time of my life there was people who approached me. They were usually people who didn’t understand boundaries, had some inferiority complex towards women, or had found me an easy target to throw all their tantrum on. It was so weird that even though I kept to myself and gave cold ish vibes there were people like that who just pushed against it. And yet, they never do this to people who are more outgoing. I guess my question is, how do I make sure these people stop approaching me but still keep my quietness? Do I actually have to start being mean to them aka a jerk?