okay so obviously i could just Ask but idk… how
me and this guy are in a very casual relationship. we go on dates and fuck and text sometimes in between.
now the sex was rough to start and has been getting progressively aggressive. we discussed a lot before we actually had sex so many of the kinks were already checked off. he’s introduced some new things at random (nothing crazy and has asked/checked in if he felt it was toooo overboard) and i know if im uncomfortable he’ll stop completely so it’s all okay (plus i genuinely enjoy it a Lot).
but with things becoming rougher, i feel like im actually starting to really want aftercare when i didn’t care before.
i’ve had sex this rough in the past with one partner but that was someone who i was emotionally connected to. i knew how much he loved me so if the aftercare wasn’t always there it was fine.
now with this partner, because of the nature of our relationship, there isn’t really much of an emotional foundation here. we care about each other’s wellbeing in a very general way but that’s it.
and he is physically affectionate outside of sex (kisses, soft touches, cuddling, though… he did pull away once when i interlocked our fingers outside of sex?) but after sex it’s usually a kiss on the forehead and him being like “are you okay?” and then we just lay next to each other without much else.
this has been all fine and dandy but idk. i enjoy being treated like somewhat of an object during sex, but i also like to be reminded im not one right after.
i’m not sure how to bring this up or if it’s even appropriate to? i know he won’t get mad, he’s a very understanding guy but it feels almost uncomfortable to approach this topic in a casual relationship so i’m kinda ://
any tips?
(this is my first strictly casual relationship ever btw!)