I (35F) have been friends with this guy (37M)for about a year now and we recently confessed our feelings for each other. We have been dating for about a month now. We were hanging out last week and making out turned into sex. It was fine, but odd that he insisted on going down on me for a loooooong time before anything else (I’ve never had that happen before). After he made me cum, we started making out again and he was actively avoiding me touching his cock, or grinding on me, etc., fine we will just make out instead. When he finally tried to have sex with me, he instantly went limp. I told him not to worry, we can do other things, and we did. He eventually tried again, and could not get an erection at all. I even offered to go down on him and he said no, don’t worry about it. So, we just cuddled for an hour before he left to go home.
So now I am feeling like a failure because I couldn’t even help maintain his erection and then ultimately, couldn’t even give him an erection. He brought it up later and all he said is that it won’t happen again, which is fine but I don’t want him to feel bad about it.
My question would be is this common or has this happened to anyone else? I’m just confused because he always talks about how gorgeous I am and how hot he finds me, and then this happened. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks in advance.