TLDR: I (30F) don’t want to see my husbands (42M) family more than we already do. We see them 11 times a year. I told him anything additional he wants to do with them, he can take the kids and go do. He thinks it’s disrespectful to his family if I don’t come to everything.
Here goes. My husband was raised with his family going to his grandmothers house every Sunday. Mine was not. We see his family for Our sons birthday, our daughters birthday, his birthday, his dads birthday, his mothers birthday, Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, his sisters birthday, Easter, thanksgiving and Christmas. It’s spread out throughout the year so the only months we don’t see anyone is January, February, July and October.
We see my family for Easter, Christmas and thanksgiving. That’s not a problem for me. I’m used to not seeing them too often. My mom passed 6 years ago so that’s why not Mother’s Day.
My idea for middle ground was that I will continue to go to birthdays and holidays. Anything extra that you want to do, you can take the kids and go do that. It will give me a break since I’m a SAHM. It sounded like a win win to me. Apparently he thinks it’s disrespectful. He is not budging and is not coming up with any compromise. I just want to know am I really that crazy for not wanting to see them more? Why can’t he just go by himself??