Im 34 F and I met Mark (34M) in March at a special event for singles like speed dating. We decided to go on a date the next week and everything was going well. We went on a lot of dates. He was very sweet and kind. Always texting me. For the first time, I was not worried if he will text me because he was. It was the first time I was dating since 2022. I took a break to really work on myself. And I was really ready to begin dating again when I met him. He bring me jam that he made himself, mushrooms that he gathers and he made me dinner a lot of time. He really was taking care of me.
Last time I dated in 2022, the guy was always texting me too and someday, out of nowhere, he decided he was not interested anymore. But I didn’t see it coming because he was acting as usual. So I was a little traumatized by this behaviour. So this time with this new guy, I promised myself that I will ask him if everything was alright from time to time. I did just one time. And he said that everything was fine and he likes seing me and chat with me.
Last week, Mark was sick so I made up for him a care package with a lot of stuff (home soup, his favorite candies etc.). He thanked me and was really happy. He even came to see me on Thursday even if he was sick. I made him dinner. He said he was looking forward to seeing me.
We didnt spend the weekend together because I went to see one of my friend. And we texted as usual. We planned to see each other monday night (on May 6) and he called me the same day to say that he thought that I was not the right person for him. That he was not looking forward to seeing me. That he was not feeling it.
It’s the third time that it happened to me like everything seems good on texts but no, the guy is not feeling it anymore. I told him that I was hurt and that I needed to hang up and said bye.
I feel sad and upset. I dont know if I attract this type of guy, I dont want to! I schedule an appointment with a psychologist because I attract just this type of guy since my big break up in 2018. (a relationship of 4 years)
What do you think? Do you think Im afraid of getting hurt so I attract guy who don’t get attach? Thanks for your answers!
\*English is not my first language.