I started a new job three months ago in a new city and I’ve been struggling to make friends. I get along with my teammates alright, but I kind of an outsider, since they’re a tight-knit group that often hangs out outsider of the office. I struggle to get closer to people, I think partly because of my social skills, partly because these people some of my teammates have known each other for years.
I’ve been getting along with this real nice co-worker from a different team that rides the train with me on the morning commute. We have some shared interestests, and she suggested that we made a movie club since we live closeby (3 minutes walk from esch other) and I’d say I would love to. A couple of weeks later, I asked her if she would like to come to my house sometime soon to watch a movie, but she kind of avoided the topic by saying that sometimes there are open-air screenings in summer and we could go to that (but that’s 2-3 months from now).
Today, we were talking about Eurovision, and I asked her if she would like to grab some dinner, the semi-final together after work. She said that she had some phone calls to make because she just moved to a new apartment last week, so she would watch it by herself. The thing is she’s calling city council, which doesn’t take calls after 6, and Eurovision starts at 8 pm, so I think it’s most likely and excuse 🙁 And she didn’t really propose an alternative.
I’m kind of confused and I don’t know if I should try to invite her again? Or maybe she’s not interested and I’m missing the cue? 🙁
Edit: We’re both woman, and in a relationship and she has met my boyfriend before, so I don’t think that her mistaken this as a romantic interaction is the case here.