My wife (36F), me (40M) and child (5F) live in Belgium and i am the breadwinner in the family. It’s been almost a year that wife got those episodes of hysteria and screaming over anything. Each time she tries to apologise the next day but i was feeling that this is not OK in the long run. Recently those episodes become more frequent and my daughter started to wake up at nights or cry over her mother screaming hysterically.
Today’s episode included hitting me and when my daughter came crying i held her in my arms and wife continued to hit me with my daughter so i called the police and they came.
She told them that i am the abuser and was hitting her but the situation was clear and moreover i started to record her episodes a while ago so i have all the proof.
The police told her not to scream for the sake of the child and that we will be visiting the station soon.
She even raised her voice with the police thinking maybe that they should automatically take her side since she is a woman and if she tells lies this should be OK but thankfully the police saw through the BS.
Is there something i should do? I have asked her to seek help zillion times before even her family asked her to do so but she refused totally. I feel a bit bad for my daughter i always dreamt about giving everything to my child and having a proper family but this seems not likely.