My partner (M35) and I (F30) have been together for 5 years. Throughout our time together we have had a wonderful relationship. We’re best friends, we’re good partners, we have love, support, and respect for one another but… sex has always been a bit of an issue.
He’s very kind and sweet and gentle in general, and I respond to a little aggression and dominance in bed, which doesn’t come natural to him (at least with me? He says in the past, with women he wasn’t emotionally involved did everything and anything but he can’t treat me that way) Anything I want him to do in bed, if he does – it doesn’t really turn me on because I know he’s doing it for me. He’s damn if he does, he’s damn of he doesn’t?
We’ve seen a sex teraphist, we’ve tried to always comunicate about sex so at this point our sex is pretty scarred by all the conversations. We take a lot of baggage to bed when sex happens. And sex doesn’t happen all that much. We are tired and scared to start yet another conversation, but we have love for eachother and a great relationship otherwise.
I am out of ideas on what to do, but sex just isn’t a priority for me anymore. I feel like maybe my sex drive would come back with other people and that maybe we’re not fully comparable sexually, but I don’t want to throw away our relationship as it is beautiful.
I’m sad and lost and scared. Can anyone advise on what to do? I’d love to hear from both sides.
Thank you for your help.