I know this topic is going to sound stupid.
We (28M&21F) go along very well for 5 months now. We meet up or call about every day. I think she’s funny, smart and a total sweetheart and she loves me. However for a lack of better wording, she’s lacking sex appeal. She usually dresses nothing out of the ordinary, jeans and oversized sweater, barely flirts sexually and lacks sexual experience matching with mine. In regards to this, she’s the total opposite of what I was used to in the bedroom (and spoiled with, I recognize). Summarizing, I usually feel not teased in the slightest.
This all translates to our physical activities, which to me, is often more a “job to do” to satisfy her needs rather than mine. Some days I even refuse her offer to have sex at all and rather hug and go to sleep. The male variant of “the headache”…?
She knows I miss something and what I like to see, but obviously some stuff is just how it is and she shouldn’t completely change the way she is anyway. I’m sort of okay with it and on the verge of accepting but… almost.
I was wondering if anyone got some experience to share on this. Cheers!
tl;dr: partner missing sex appeal