i’m staving off a panic attack with some deep breathing but can use your help, reddit.
tldr; gf went on a trip with a single female friend and two guys without disclosing who would be there
basically above. i asked who would be there and she said a random hodgepodge of friends. nothing to fret about. i started feeling strange when the photos she sent me only contained her or her female friend. seemed weird to omit certain people from the photos. unless it was intentional. the other two party members are random dudes who are friends with the single female friend who my partner is visiting. i only found out this morning (she’s been gone for a week). she said she didn’t know that two guys would be there (of which i’m doubtful) and even then, why not say anything?
it’s not the fact that she’s there with two guys, rather the fact she felt the need to hide it. we haven’t talked about it yet but i plan to discuss it this evening after i pick her up from the airport
i’ve written out all my feelings and questions and want to get the the root of what would compel my partner to lie. it hurts when the person closest to you deceives you
i plan to get her point of view and try to understand why she made the decision to omit that fact, but i’ve also got a bag packed and will be staying with my brother for a week. maybe she thought she would spare me the anxiety if i didn’t know. rather, it opened a flood gate of worry
idk what im looking for from y’all; kind words, advice, wisdom, perspective…alls im doing now is trying to keep from breaking down and would love to hear im overreacting though i dont think thats the case…