I’m 26F and just had my first ever date – through hinge.
When I saw him I initially didn’t find him attractive so I wasn’t nervous. He did compliment me and say I’m ‘fairly good looking’ lol. We started talking about catfishes and I joked am I a catfish and he said I’m fairly good looking and have good chat.
About an hour into the date I said I need to be leaving soon ( I didn’t) and then 15 mins later the waiter told us the place was closing so I said I’ve got to go anyway.
As we were walking to the station it was really awkward and I told him I’m meeting a friend outside the station. Not sure if he could tell if I was lying. He told me he could stay while I wait for my friend and I said no it’s fine.
We awkwardly said bye and he didn’t say much and I said let’s do this again sometime.
This was like 4 hours ago, He hasn’t messaged me since which I thought was odd. So I’ve messaged him to tell him I’m
Not feeling it.
Do you guys think he caught on that I was lying about meeting a friend and wasn’t feeling him?
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It’s not odd that he hasn’t texted only 4 hours after your date…
Expecting a text the same night you had a date? 😬 AND you ended it? The only thing odd here is you. Lol
What exactly is the issue here? You aren’t interested in him. He probably could tell so he just cut his losses. Honestly, good for him to be able to move on like nothing happened.
If you never plan on seeing him again what is the issue? Let him move on and you move on.
Gotta keep that ego intact
He literally hasn’t even finished digesting the meal from the date.
I’m also genuinely puzzled, I’ve heard many complaints from women receiving messages from men they didn’t find attractive; but never complaint about *not* being messaged by a man they found unattractive
Edit: also for future reference; telling someone you don’t want to keep talking to them and they don’t message you isn’t ghosting, it’s literally them doing what you asked. They *literally* respected your decision and you felt disrespected by that.
Idk but I see no wrong in him waiting until Your friend comes, Some people have trust issues and It could be what played here, Besides you said He wasn’t attractive, Could be you didn’t want Your friend to see you with someone of his kind, Who knows? Not me
You didn’t find him attractive which I’m sure he picked up on. Then you lied to him throughout the date. And you’re wondering why he doesn’t want to see you again? 🤣
I am very confused. So you weren’t attracted, yet you still expected a message from him…? Saying what, exactly? I’m really curious.
Sounds like he dodged a bullet.
Why even bother saying we should do this again sometime when you’re lying? FOR THE STREETS