My husband (M31) and I (F27) have been married for less than a year. We’ve been together over five years, and before we were married I wrote off his forgetfulness. He’s a really sweet and compassionate guy. He’s loyal and kind. But he’s also terrible at making moments special and remembering important days.
I’m a loss mom, and so Mother’s Day is already a really hard day for me. But so many people around me made it special, except for my husband. No card, and a gift that he had from several years ago just in the closet that was only produced after I got sad.
The big kicker for me today was that he didn’t even reach out to his own mom. I’ve expressed that he is in charge of his family, just as I’m in charge of mine. But now I’m completely reversing that decision. My heart broke listening to his mom cry when he finally called her over how sad she was to be forgotten.
I just don’t understand. I don’t want to parent my husband. But how do we resolve this?