Hey everyone, thanks for reading my post.
I (25F) am currently dating this wonderful man (29M) for about 3 months (he doesn’t want us to be an official couple yet but we do all the activities). He is nice, treats me with respect, takes me on wonderful dates even though he is a bit emotionally cold and distant. Whenever we meet he is super affectionate but we meet once per week and the whole week we just have small talk. He is very smart and kind and I’m also attracted to him physically. The relationship feels very peaceful but I feel lonely at times.
Then there is my best friend M (25) whom I’ve also known for a couple of months. I do not find him physically attractive but he understands me like no one else, goes above and beyond for me and truly loves me. I understand him 100% and vice versa. He confessed his feelings to me a couple of days ago (I rejected him) and I am left VERY confused. I feel that I miss him, saw him in my dream but I can’t understand if it’s romantic or not . With my current date things are going well but it’s not emotionally intense, he is not emotionally in tune with me and we dont know much about each other. I feel like a piece of absolute garbage and have no clue what to do, help please
TL;DR: cannot understand my own feelings for my date vs my best friend. Both of them are wonderful but different