Quick background: I have been talking and spending time with a guy and I think things have been going great. He’s super busy with the work with what he does so we’re definitely taking things slow and see each other maybe once a week but text/chat everyday. Recently I said something I think might have scared him away

We finally talked about it a little and he did mention that it kind of worried him. He said” I’ve been transparent. I’ve been working on things. I’m not sure if a relationship is in my near future or not just so you know. I’m happy just hanging out”

I’ve heard “I’m not looking for a relationship right now” and there’s that.

Is there a difference in what he is saying? I only ask because this guy compared to others I have dated is a lot more mature and has mentioned to me that he has a lot of “life” things going on but it’s all good (whatever that means). He knows and I’ve made it known that I am not looking to just hook up either and he’s been very respectful of that for the time we have been talking.

I told him to text me later and to relax his mind a bit as the conversation was a lot for the both of us. He said, “Yea it’s all good. Just was a lot at once” after I asked if this is something he wants to continue.

Since then I have given him space and haven’t reached out since I basically put the ball in his court to reach out once he’s settled. Was this also something I should have done? I know people require their space so I’m doing the best I can to give it.

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  1. Sounds like both of you want something casual. Therefore he’s treating the whole arrangement you guys have as such. Eventually he’ll reach out to you.

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