Tldr
I feel neglected and also I feel like I’m more a parent than a partner.
I’m 25 female and my bf is 30. We’ve been together for 4 years.
My bf is very forgetful so I can’t trust him to do anything and he leaves stuff everywhere so that I often need to put things somewhere else so that they’re not in my way. He also doesn’t have any idea about how much time passes by so I am the only one who worries about things that are supposed to be done in a specific time frame. It’s not just chores. For example we often spend the evenings together but before that he plays video games alone and when I don’t come to ask him if he could spend some time with me now he just keeps going. I feel hurt by this because for me it looks like he doesn’t care to spend quality time with me. I’m also overwhelmed by keeping up with chores. I’m not well organized at all and I’d love some help with this but instead I need to both worry if I do my chores and additionally if he does. He’s decided to set up notifications that remind him of things on his phone but somehow even this is a challenge for him and when he does set it up it doesn’t motivate him to do what he’s supposed to. He says he’s trying to improve and when we talk about this he honestly seems to care so I try not to think badly of him or feel hurt. But regardless of how sincere he really is, I’m just so exhausted. I don’t want to break up with him but it’s all very hard to bear. Is there anything I can still do?
Update
He’s just asked me if we can spend some time together. It’s 30 minutes to midnight rn. On Monday.