I (33) have been dating my boyfriend (29) for 3.5 years. He doesn’t live in the real world when it comes to careers. He applies to the most random jobs possible with no experience and just prays to get them. One day he is applying to be a project manager the next he wants to be a vet tech to working a shipment yard in Spain. The rejections from these jobs crushes him, and he will break down for a day or two. I’ve helped him out as best as possible, redoing his resume, reaching out to people in these positions to talk and guide him. But he thinks he knows what best and refuses to talk about careers with them because I tried to talk some sense and reality into what fields/skills he can do.
Apart of me gets it, that he wants to work a job he will enjoy but I personally think that needs to be figured out earlier in life and apart of being an adult is having to make a sacrifice and work so you can live. I have a good paying job, do i want to do it? No.
It’s taken a toll on our relationship because I don’t want to move in with him till he can get this figured out, we’ve had talked and sometimes it leads to him just wanting to be a “live-in boyfriend” but I flat out tell him that will never happen.
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TL:DR
Boyfriend wont think realistically about careers and it’s causing a toll on our relationship.