Men who had good relationship with your father – what was that like and how has it shaped who you are today?

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1. Don’t mind me. Just here to jealously scroll the comments 😂🥲

2. I wish I knew I’ll just live vicariously through the other comments who had good dads.

3. Idk. My dad was tough when I was a shit headed teenager but we ended up best friends when I could relate to the amount of stress I caused him. 

   He had a lot of admirable traits, like trying to understand people he disagreed with and working to share common ground. 

   He liked taking the long way to get places just to look at what there was to see on the way, and he had an obsession with taking home used skis from the dump to build ice fishing accoutrements with. 

   I picked up some of his attitudes but honestly I’m a bit harsher than he was, like I believe in the death penalty and he didn’t 

4. I’ve always wondered how to call my relationship with my dad. Perhaps benign emotional light touch! My dad worked six days a week, from about 8am to 6pm, running his own shop. I appreciate what he did but, it was not possible to ‘be there’ and work so much.

   As things stand, we’ve always got on but I would not say I am close to him. Once I moved home, I think several years went by with no contact and that was not intentional, just incidental. Since that period, I see him about twice a year (I’ve lived abroad since 1996) and we have the very occasional phone call of about 10 minutes, just checking in. He’s never visited my home abroad or even expressed any interest in doing so and I’m not resentful. It’s just symptomatic of our relationship. I think he’s a lot closer to the first born. I’m a middle child

5. It was good.

   My dad and I are like reflections of each other. We talk similarly, joke similarly, look similarly, act similarly, etc. I’m basically his clone. And luckily for me, he’s a solid dude. Hard working, understanding, patient, and caring.

   For a few years, I would work different jobs relating with kids. All of the kids loved me. My secret? I just acted the way my dad did when I was a kid.

6. Good.

   Idk.

7. I don’t know how to answer this. Mostly because I really have a bad dad to compare to.

8. I don’t see him much because of divorce but that just meant it was all quality time.

   The most important things he taught me was always have a waterproof rucksack liner, frontal assaults never work without support and CVs should be plain and searchable. 

9. Oddly enough, I’d probably consider my dad my best friend. I’m in my mid 30s. Grew up in a traditional household. Church on Sunday morning.

   My dad was tough on me growing up. Hard chores from a young age. Cutting firewood, bailing hay, and so on. As a kid, I can vividly recall how much I hated certain chores and in the same breath I can be so thankful for having him push me so hard.

   He’s as proud as ever to see how far I’ve progressed in life and I’m sure I would’ve engaged cruise control many years ago if it wasn’t for him. We talk on the phone every few days. Help each other on projects and hunt/fish together regularly.

10. How it is? Well, pretty good

    My father is a bit emotionally distant but with time i learned that he expressed his love for me by just being there and spending time with me when I asked him for things that he couldn’t care about as much like going to the stadium or playing videogames with me

    He’s the reason I have a strong moral compass, that I like educating myself in politics and because of him I talk a bit different than my friends (they say that I talk like an old man, but hey, I was raised by one)

    I wouldn’t change anything about my old man