Hello,
We are both in our late 20’s and I’ve matched her on an app 1 month ago. We met once, 3 weeks ago. We grabbed some drinks and went to dinner. We stayed 4 hours together and she told me that she hopes to see me again. She told me that I was the first guy she met on the app after one month being on it and that men tend to ghost her; I was wondering why.
After the date I gave her my number and she texted me two days after. She doesn’t text that much though. I can expect to receive a message from her after more than 24 hours of silence. She told me that she is quite busy with her work (she works in the medical field).
I’ve asked her out four times now. The first time wasn’t possible but she told me that next week should be. I’ve asked her out this time but I had to cancel due to work. So, the same week, I’ve asked her if she was down last week-end but she wasn’t in my town. Monday, I’ve asked her if she was down next week-end to do something but no answer yet.
I don’t want to be pushy with her but since she doesn’t text that much, the only way to have a conversation is face-to-face. And now I recall what she told me; she only met me and dating apps never worked out for her.
She seems to be honest and she is busy with work but I have the feeling that she is not ready to date or that is not her priority. I can understand but since she is busy I feel almost tired to ask her out over and over again. Do you think that I should be more patient with her?
2 comments
I think if you ask someone out and they can’t make it, it’s their job to suggest an alternative time/day.
Dating is a two way street. You’re both as worthy and valuable as each other. You’re both just getting to know each other.
If she wants to get to know you she needs to give just as much as you but it seems like she isn’t.
I would advise you to stop asking her out. If she want to see you, it’s her turn to make the effort. In the meantime, date other people and live your life.
Doesn’t sound like she’s interested at all.