Like the title says, My brother 28M and his girlfriend 28F just got engaged after dating for a few years, When i told my girlfriend of 5 years she drove to my house and started screaming in the middle of the street about how my brothers girlfriend is a C\*NT and she didn’t deserve it and my family was present for this meltdown. Once i “calmed her down” my mother told her she needed help and that she cant do that and that it was insane, once we were alone she basically went off about how terrible my mother is and i wasn’t having it because my mother is constantly buying little trinkets for her and genuinely treated her like a daughter. Now i know my mothers not perfect but she never gets involved in my relationship.
Me and her have talked about getting engaged ALOT and I’ve even bought a few ring but returned them because she doesn’t know what kind of ring she wants, I’ve tried to get a place together with her for the past 6 months but she always says “How about YOU get a place and i can stay over and eventually move it” which honestly after 5 years has put me off a little, I had the intention of proposing to get in June i even spoke to my family about it and they were happy. But after this insane meltdown i don’t know if i can be with her and if i want to, and how is my family supposed to “get over” this incident?
I am going to list a few things because i have no intention of making her seem insane.
-She just finished her first year of Law school which was very difficult for her
-I took her on a trip for finishing school and invited my mother and sister because i was going to be working the whole time.
-She has always said that my brothers GF is rude to her and there have definitely been moments where I’ve called it out, so that’s true.
-She has severe allergies to animals and was very upset when my brother and GF had a dog in the house because that meant she couldn’t be around (Which i was also upset about)
-This isn’t the first time she’s had a meltdown.
Please feel free to ask for any clarification I’m a terrible writer.