My boyfriend and I were already in a friend’s group circle. We hang out with our friends and other people almost everyday. We have been together for a year now LDR. He is a very private and shy person, our relationship is great when we are alone. However, when we are with our friends or new people it doesn’t seem like we are together at all he just acts like I am some random girl. All our friends know and are surprised we are together only because I told them. I told him about this and he says he doesn’t like to show off his private life and that he is shy and so on.
We took a trip together with our friends and he didn’t even bother to sit next to me in the bus, it was a 12 hour way. I was so hurt I told him and he cried and he said he loves me and all of that.
On his birthday party, I came and I was dressed very well and he talked to me probably only 30 seconds the whole night, and very fast. While he was talking to another girl for like an hour alone in the balcony (he said it’s been six month he didn’t see her). To give a little bit of a background his older sister hates me because she is racist and she is so controlling she is also the one who threw the party for him and he insisted she would invite me so I came because it was his birthday.
I don’t know if he was scared of his sister and didnt want to make it awkward as me and her had a fight a month before (were he didn’t even stand up for me becausehis sister was treating me poorly for no reason.
The weird thing is that when we are walking on the streets he holds my hand and hugs me he says because noone knows him.
I keep telling him that it’s weird but he says all of his previous relationships were private that even his friends didnt know who he was with. And that he doesnt want to go around showing off his girlfriend.
Is there something off about this ? I can’t understand his reasoning.